Menstruation In Islam; Confusions And Clarification During Ibadah.

In the name of Allah the most beneficent the most merciful.

I don’t have to give rulings on menstruation, because we are all clear about the rulings that you don’t have to pray, fast, Tawaf and so on. So I’ll tell us ways a woman can know when her menstruation ends because it’s a bit confusing more especially during the month of Ramadan fasting. Hadith below indicates that Menstruation is a part of every daughter of Adam on earth and it is not a thing to be disliked but accepted as it is.

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Ramadan Fasting is not an act of Agony or Self-torture

Ramadan Fasting is not an act of agony or self-torture.
Ramadan Fasting is not an act of agony or self-torture.

In a Hadith narrated by Abu Huraira from Prophet Muhammad PBUH who said:” Whenever the month of Ramadan commence the doors to paradise are opened and those (doors) to Hell-fire are locked up and all devils (Shaidan) are tied up with the rope (so that they may not tempt the Muslims.”

In another related Hadith; the messenger of Allah PBUH said: “Indeed, Allah merciful the great, forgives and thereby set immune against the torment of Hell-fire on the Day of Judgment to; about six hundred thousand of his servants in each night of the Ramadan. When it is the last night of Ramadan, he multiplies this by the exact number of days that have lapsed (600, 000× 29 or 600, 000 × 30)” Narrated by Baihaqi.

I am sure without any other clarification, the above Ahadiths gives a clear explanation of some of the bounties of the month of Ramadan. It is a disappointment to hear that Muslims are complaining of Fasting during the month of Ramadan and are eager to see the end of it.

Fasting is ordained by Allah the great, in the holy Qur’an Allah SWT said in suratul Baqara (Q2:183);
“O you who believe decreed upon you is fasting as it was decreed upon those who came before you so that you may become righteous”.

The above verse indicate that fasting is an obligation upon every Muslim, each and every one of us is expected to obey. Therefore, fasting in the month of Ramadan is an act of obedience to Allah SWT and his messenger PBUH. A Muslim have no option but to abide. In the Qur’an Allah SWT, says;

“It is not for a believer; Man or women when Allah and his messenger have decreed a matter that they should have an option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and his messenger has indeed strayed
in a plain error’’. (Qur’an 33:36).

Moreover, the wisdom behind fasting is not self-torture; because Allah SWT has set aside a stipulated time for the fasting and has not make it compulsory to the weak, ill, and the traveler (Allahu Akbar); Allah is great. In Qur’an 2: 183, Allah describes the conditions for fasting:

“Fasting for a limited number of days, whoever among you who is ill or embarking on a journey, he should then fast the same number of days (missed) that is equal number of days are to be made up. And upon those who are unable to fast (to fast with hardship):- A ransom (as substitute of feeding a poor each day). And whoever volunteers excess: – it is better for him, but to fast is best for you if only you know”. Suratul Baqara verse 184.

No one knows about what is good for men and women more than their creator; Allah. His laws are wise as it is the case with all his actions. Allah SWT made it clear that Ramadan fasting not hardship or anything related to it. In the same surah (Al-Baqara verse 185 Allah the beneficent says:

“The month of Ramadan (is that) in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for the people and clear proof s of guidance and criterion. So whoever sights the new moon of the month let him fast in it, and whoever is ill or on a journey, then an equal number of other days missed are to be made up. Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship and (wants) for you to complete the period (Ramadhan) and to glorify Allah for that to which he has guided you. And perhaps you will be grateful”.

How are about those married couples that are thinking that they have been deprived of quenching their sexual desire during the month of Ramadan. Still our good lord has not forbidden you to have sexual relations with your spouse. In Qur’an 2:187 Allah says:-

“It has been made been made permissible for you the night preceding fasting to go to your wives [for sexual relations]. They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so he accepted your repentance and forgave you. So now have relations with them and seek that which Allah decreed for you. And eat and drink until the white thread of dawn becomes distinct to you from black thread of night. Then complete the fast until sunset. And do not have relations with them as long as you are staying for worship in mosques. These are limits set by Allah so do not approach them. Thus Allah make clear his ordinances to the people that may be become righteous”.

Finally Ramadan Fasting is a strong indicator of Islamic brotherhood, unity, equity, perseverance, and endurance. In the Qur’an Allah SWT describes this religion unity.
“Indeed! This your religion (Brotherhood) is one religion and I am your lord, so worship me”. (Qur’an 21:92.).

We should adhere strictly to the above verse in action and letter to the logical conclusion. Ramadan is the month of unity that unites the whole Muslims all over the world in bid to do the same thing towards fulfilment of a certain divine commandment of Allah. It is our duty to exhibit this unity through this spiritual institution. Many of us today regard worship (ibadah) as hereditary which is passed on as inheritance intestate. I want us to understand that everything was documented and kept in place right before our descendants and on to us. The knowledge might be passing on from generation to generation but the rule and orders never change.

Letter To My Future Husband ( Father to my unborn kids)

Dear,

The heart that has chosen you will never be away from you, right from the first day we met i knew and felt that you the mr. right for me. I have sensed a perfect life in our spousal relationship. I want you to know that what the lord has decreed be it and it will be. It was not our decision or option to be together, Allah made it for us.

Secondly a man’s dignity, self Worth, self respect, is not his account balance, its not in his swaggs nor the type of friends he mingled with. Moreover, your attitude of admiration or esteem is based on who you are not what you are. I promise to love you for who you are not what you have. So, in this case i want you to be focused on your dreams to be an achiever, don’t spend lavishly, invest and save more for our future make plans and budgets for our needs.

Dearie, i want you to be a God fearing person take your religion as your priority, make use of your youth stage very effective because one day you will surely be a daddy, when your past is not having a desirable or positive qualities, we have nothing to tell. In addition; Guard your chastity and lower your gaze from glancing at what does not rightly belongs to you. I assure you that you will make a good dad, always be playful and kind to our kids, portray a good example by loving and caring for their mum in their presence. Provide for them, always draw them closer, correct their mistakes and make them understand the ups and downs of life, don’t spoil them with luxuries of life but moderate.

Lastly, i know and believe that two different humans with dissimilar attitude, perception and upbringing will be united as one entity living under one roof of marriage, they both have to observe Patience and understand each other. I am not saying you should be Perfect but be at your best..

                       Your’s Future wife.

Hijab Series Part 2; Graduation make up

A young lady came in to greet her mother in the morning after subhi prayer (morning prayer).

Nabila:- Assalamu alaikum. Good morning mum.

Mama (Hajiya jamila):- wa alaikis salam, dear antashi lafiya ( a form enquiry about ones health).

Nabila:- I’am fine, Alhamdulilah ( All praises is due Allah). Mama i just came to remind you about our graduation dinner to night. (She said while in a begging manner)

Mama:- what time is it? And where is it taking place?

Nabila:- mama its sokoto road A.B event center, its just an award night which will not take more than 2 hours ma.

Mama:- alright Allah ya kaimu..

Later in the evening, Nabila and Hafsat were busy applying make up and preparing for the dinner.

Hafsat:- Sis am gonna kill the show with this my gown..

Nabila:- hmmm look at you, mine just looked like a bridal gown keep quite and watch me wear this..

Hafsat:- woww, you look gorgeous.. Alright lets go. Since we have observed our magrib prayer i don’t want us to be late.

Nabila:- See this girl we won’t go in there very early lets be 30 minutes late, so that we can draw the the attention of them. (She winked).

Hajiya Jamila (Nabila’s Mum):– Nabila !!  Hafsa !!(she called their names from down stairs.)
They answered Na’am at thesame time.

Hajiya Jamila:- Are you girls not going out for that dinner or what do you called it? You told me it was scheduled 7pm and now its past 7.

Nabila:- Mama we are coming down right away.

They went down stairs, where mama is sitting on a praying mat with her rosary (a string of beads used in counting the prayers).

Hajiya Jamila:– She Looked at them angrily, where do you think you are going like this, with paintings like masquerade? Are you girls crazy? what do you take me for?? A useless mother sitting with her eyes closed and folded arms watching you do what u like??

Nabila: No mama with a sorry face..

An elderly woman came out from the next door in the sitting room, shes a bit old but not as old as hajiya jamila.

Aunty saudah: Yaya lafia?; (means are you o.k? She enquired) i heard your voice whilst i was ready for isha prayer.

Hajiya Jamila:- Lafiya (all is well) its just this useless kids that made me angry wai they are going out for a so called graduation dinner and award night, just take a look at how they were dressed. They are not going anywhere you better go back to your room.

Aunty saudah:- Haba yaya, (elder sister), attending a graduation party is nothing bad, its just a sendforth event organized or to say it’s a farewell event organized by graduands. It serves as a platform for saying goodbyes and forgiving each other, sometimes their lecturers also grace the occasions and award are presented to some personalities among them in form of appreciation and adding more grease to their elbows..

Hajiya Jamila:- Haba saudatu, is that what gave them the license to wear what they like in form of fashion or what??

Aunty saudah: Thats the point sister, they are not suppose to dress like this to a gathering of both men and women.
She turned to the girls with a smile and then became serious. (Aunty saudah).

Aunty Saudah:– My daughters you see everything you do should be in conformity with the teachings and rulings of islam.. Allah SWT said in the Qur’an:-*O prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) over their body (i.e) is screen themselves completely except the eyes (Face) to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known ( as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is oft-forgiving, most merciful”* Ahzab(59).
You see Allah has commanded that we women must cover our bodies.

Hajiya Jamila:- tell them she said furiously.

Aunty Saudah:- You can be fashionable and good looking but avoid tabbarooj which is the display, an act showing off your beauty body outdoors.. Now kneel down and plead to your mother.

– They squat down; Mama we are sorry and we promised to cover ourselves.

Hajiya jamila:- you better do that, because you will never attract a good man, and no responsible man will approach you, any man that come your way will try to conceal their bad intention, so pls try to safeguard and protect your dignity as a woman.

Hafsa and Nabila: Insha allah mama; they went up stairs, Nabila got a fine veil and wrapped it round her neck with pins while Hafsat removed the crazy gown, wear her black Abaya and cleaned up the heavy make up and just applied a nude lipstick..

Aunty Saudah:– you look fine and gorgeous in your outfit, pls take care of your selves and come back early, Your brother Farid will escort you girls for safety and his your Mahram.

Thank you. They said and went out hurriedly before maama change her mind.

 

Hijab Series; part 1

Two young ladies walking out of a lecture class and the third joined them;

Fatima:- Hey girls ya kuke greeting in hausa.

Rukkayya:- Haba sister, you always have this attitude of jumping in without salam.

Surayya:- Laughing hehe ustaziyya (the devoted religious lady).. You have start again.

Fatima:- Surayya let me apologize, before she starts preaching(with a wink). Am sorry Assalamu alaikum..

Rukkaya:- wa alaikum assalam, Very good i won’t start preaching, (she said laughing). By the way Surayya your clothes are too tight and your veil does not even cover your bosom not to talk of the posterior part of the fleshy halves of your body ( buttocks). Wanted to talk to you since when we were in the class, you know you came late, come and see how the guys were glancing at your back i felt some how wallahi (i swear).

Surayya :- OMG sister Rukayya i thought this Kimono after dress was ok as a Hijab, it’s sleeved.. Please don’t tell me all the boys were staring me at like they’ve got meat to eat (she said looking depressed).

Rukayya:- No my sister don’t worry, you know men are like that, if you display your body figures they stare or they keep giving that persistent look, and that was what is prohibited in islam, thats one of the reasons why Allah ordered that women must put on the hijab. So that it will screen us from those lustful looks from men. And you know that is a form of sin and a bad reward will be given to any lady that displays her body..

Fatima:- Sister Rukayya Do you mean if we dress attractively, and the men looks at us lustfully we have a bad reward?

Rukayya :- Don’t worry my Friends, all we have to do is try as much as possible to cover. Sisters, looking good is o.k, but let it confined to the shariah (islamic jurisprudence). We can put on our kimono, after dress, Abaya or whatever but it most not be transparent, performed, or tight..

Surayya:- owwh i feel relieved i will make sure my next outfit will match the description of the Hijab you just gave. Thanks alot ustaziyya i love you much..

Fatima:- Alright girls can we go grab something to eat and then we are good to go.

Surrayya :- Acici (person who likes to eat), i think i am not going for this lecture.

Rukayya:- why? (With a Straight face).

Surrayya:- i’am going home right away, beacaus i don’t feel comfortable in this outfit and i feel like i am disobeying my lord, don’t worry about me. After all the lecture is just 1 hour and 1 credit unit course. We will meet tomorrow Insha Allah (By God’s grace). Bye (she headed to pathway to the exit gate and left the two girls standing.

The two other friends went to the cafeteria and got some snacks, headed to the mosque for asr and finally to the lecture class.

Government jobs can’t go round; Start something and re-invent yourself.

According to Muhammad Tosin; “There’s no law mandating you to work with your certificate. Rather than spend several months or even years at home seeking employment, learn new skills and position yourself for better opportunities”. There’s an inordinate obsession of fresh graduate with white- collar jobs. In reality, the available white collar jobs can’t go round. The earlier you realize the better for you, because then, you can explore the viable options.

As Nigerians you are well aware of stiff competition that exist within the labor market, in case you are unaware; according to “national bureau of statistics, (NBS)”: the rate of unemployment in Nigeria stood at 23.9% in 2011, while urban unemployment was estimated at 29.5 % in 2013.

Nigeria’s population has been increasing rapidly for at least the last decades due to very high birthrates, quadrupling its population during this time. This type of growth rate is exponential not growing at linear rate. According to the 2017 revision of the world population prospects; ” the total population was 185, 99,640, approximately 186 million in 2016, compared to only 37,860,000 in 1950 with 53.2% constituting the productive age 15 – 65 years of age. The population is increasing at overwhelming rate which is incorporated with a major problem of unemployment. Here’s where the question comes in; can the government offer jobs to 40 – 50 percent of its population which are considered to be youths?

Start answering this question and wake up from your slumber, convoke and summon the courage then, get into action. Search for idea, design it, plan it and then execute it. Think outside the box, be innovative, and achiever. Re- invent yourself by learning from your mistakes, have a positive outlook, and set your goal and objectives. Build a strong team and do not procrastinate. Finally you are the pilot of your own life because you are responsible for your success and failure.

My Real Self…

Get ready to know your real self, who i’am what is the expected behavior from me in the society. Have you ever for once ask your self these questions… Sister you are vulnerable; More or most likely to be exposed to the chance of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally, almost lacking in force or ability (weak) / inflection, your mindset and brain working system is a kind of less to a smaller extent, your heart is soft mild, rather than; hard or severe, you are a mother’s, sister’s, brother’s, and husband’s keeper, you are known to be amiable and caring not heartless.

You are meant to be able to stand strong and be a conqueror, your servitude is rewarded only by your Creator *The merciful Lord* Glory be to him whom created me to be a female to serve as a mother, a sister, a wife, and the protector of the society, my life will become worthless and valueless if i lose my self esteem, dignity and respect, if i misuse my time. The moment i allow my sense of self importance i.e my ego overshadowed the right path i suppose to follow, the friends i follow and the bad characters i copy as models… I pray that the Good lord help me portray my self Worth and be able to make a difference in the human society.