Effective way of managing your time

I always wake up every morning with different thoughts and ideas including bunch of activities I have in mind that I need to fulfil. It’s always stressful to be doing things without plans (i.e. a set of intended actions, usually mutually related, through which one expects to achieve a goal; At times you get caught up starting with one thing then ignore it, or not doing it properly, or jumping to another task, at long last you end up wasting your time, energy, and efforts and at the end with zero satisfaction. To avoid that you need a to-do list that contains a timetable of tasks you intend to carry out for the day.

To-do list
Sample of a To-do list

Calculating and managing your time is very crucial to your success, Time can be described as the appropriate moment that is an inevitable progression into the future with the passing of present events into the past.”Time is really the only capital that any human being has and the thing that he can least afford to waste or lose… ” Thomas Edison.

If time is having that great value, why not make use of it effectively? That’s the question, how can I manage my time properly and stay productive? The right answer I got was when I watched a motivational video from Najahi my Success; where I learnt that the most important choice you can make in your life is to wake up with the right attitude, you can start your day full of energy to achieve the things you have always dreamt of and nothing can stop a person with the right attitude from achieving their goals.

Moreover, the best way to stay productive is by planning your set of activities accordingly, write down the things you have to do tomorrow, number these items in order of their real importance. The first thing tomorrow morning start working on number one and stay with it until it is completed next take number two and don’t go any further until its completed. Then proceed to number three and so on. If you can’t complete everything on schedule don’t worry. At least you have taken care of the most important things before getting distracted by items of lesser consequence. There is this sense of satisfaction and accomplishment in doing one job thoroughly and not having to return to it. Always establish priorities, stick to your plan, check off completed task and don’t procrastinate. Let’s take for example below are set of activities you wish to complete in the morning on a to-do list. You will find it amazing to see how productive your day will be.



In my previous post I discussed some attributes of an entrepreneur which I called the 3P’S, and now I will describe the 5D’s.

Basically, one of the defining factors of entrepreneurs is to take the necessary steps to create a business that will when managed properly will continue, they stay until they start receiving residual income. In becoming an entrepreneur; you need commitment to discover, design a plan, develop and deploy your potentials that is to unfold, open or otherwise become ready to use whatever natural ability or skills you have.
However, no matter how brilliant your ideas and talents are, you can’t be counted as an entrepreneur or a successful business owner if you don’t have these qualities which I regard as the 5D’S of an entrepreneur; Design, Determination, Development, Discipline and Dedication.

1. Design: One of the most important quality of an entrepreneur is the ability to plan ahead, entrepreneurs should have a set of intended actions; usually mutually related through which he/she expects to achieve a goal. First and foremost if you want to succeed, you need to design a plan which can be a tool you use to run and grow your business, something you continue to use and refine overtime. You need to design a blueprint; that is to put a detailed operational plan in place and stick to it.

Remember, a business plan is very crucial for determining the outcome or future of your business. It is a tool that helps you build a better business, not just a homework assignment. Good business plan are living documents that you return to on a regular basis and update as you learn more about your customers, sales, marketing tactics that work and don’t work. Your plan should set out the goals you’d like to achieve and you should use it to track your progress and adjust course as you go.

2. Determination: In my previous post I discussed perseverance which is the continuing in course of action without regard to discouragement, opposition or previous failure. But, there is a great problem with entrepreneurs about being persistent or having determination to adhere to a plan of direction. Can you please take a moment and ask yourself whether you have the quality of mind which reaches definite conclusions that you are strong enough to do it?.

The truth is that as an entrepreneur you need to reach a point of resoluteness, to be determine, convinced yourself, and have fortitude that enables the courage inside you.

3. Development: Do you know that a business cannot grow without progressing through a sequence of stages? Let me analyze this question by reminding you about certain changes associated with the market which is very essential part of your business. To become a successful entrepreneur, you need to discover and develop your potentials.

In the process of development, recognizing and overcoming the common pitfalls associated with growth is very essential if your business is to continue growing and thriving. Crucially, you need to ensure that the steps you take today, don’t themselves create additional problems for the future.

You have to be attentive by keeping up with the market, in this case you have to invest in educating yourself make research, attend seminars or trainings so as to immerse yourself deeply into the subject of interest, always read books about successful entrepreneurs, you see if you learn something new, you are then required to make mistakes in order to fully understand what you have learned. “A truly intelligent person welcomes new ideas, for new ideas can add synergy of other accumulated ideas”. – Robert Kiyosaki. That is development learn new skills, always be prepared to welcome change and adopt to it in your business.

4. Discipline: Entrepreneurs are identified by the way they think about what they do. They are not people that just startup a business. They take responsibility for delivering results. In addition an entrepreneur is an individual that is future oriented, resource endowed, he’s not concern about his advantage because he/she apply certain attitude; among them is the ability to possess a controlled behavior which is discipline.

True entrepreneurs are genuine, they show their genuineness by action. They hold themselves accountable because they have strong commitment standards. This means that they set goals and try to achieve them. In case if they feel that they are wavering from their goals, they adjust quickly. Therefore as an entrepreneur you have to be self-discipline and you need to exhibit the true virtues of self-control like integrity, your actions should be based upon an internally consistent framework of principles.

5. Dedication: As I write forwarder about the qualities that made up an entrepreneur, I realized that self-belief, hardworking and disciplined entrepreneurs are more confident and dedicated to their project. Their intense focus on and faith in their idea may be misconstrued as stubbornness, but it is the willingness to work hard and defying the odds that make them successful.

According to Sheryl Miller a sought-after business coach, mentor and award-wining entrepreneur, she says: “Dedication has been a key to her success as she brings her hair saloon app to market, she added that dedication is always listed as one of the most important traits an entrepreneur needs in order to see their business ideas come to life and become successful”. However, you have to commit yourself to that particular course of thought or action you intend to do. Dedication is all about devoting your time, resources, and focusing your efforts entirely for the sake of being successful in your business.

The 3p’s qualities of an Entrepreneur

There are many different attributes that made up an entrepreneur which include; insight, confidence, integrity, agility, passion, patience, design, development, determination to name but a few. As I have learnt; Entrepreneurial spirit is not something you are taught, it is something you must develop within yourself. It develops in the individuals who have true passion for building something great from nothing and they are willing and determine to push themselves to the limits to achieve big goals.

These people can be turned down along the way but, they never stay down because they persevere and they believe what they are after is far bigger than staying down.

As an entrepreneur, you would need to have the 3ps I refer which are: passion, patience and perseverance.

Passion: Entrepreneurial passion is a motivational construct characterized by positive emotional arousal, which is internal driven and engagement with personally meaningful work that is salient to self-identity of an entrepreneur. As I understood, whether your business idea is passion – led or otherwise, being passionate about your business gives you the strong emotion; a state of enthusiasm, excitement, energy, motivation and desire to be successful regardless of any obstacle that gets in your way. In fact passion generally follows your natural strengths and interest.

According to research; entrepreneurs who convey passion are persuasive, motivated, have larger social networks and more social capital. As a result, they have more income, sales revenue and growth in sales and earnings compared with those who are less passionate. Passion is therefore critical to an entrepreneur’s success though not all businesses are passion driven like family businesses which are inherited, nevertheless you still need to develop passion for what you are doing.

Patience: By definition; patience is the ability to endure difficult circumstance such as perseverance in the face of delay, tolerance of provocation without responding in annoyance/anger; or forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can have before negativity. (Wikipedia).

One might be wondering how I can be patient while I work hard 24/7 to earn my money and make profit. The bitter truth is that; as an entrepreneur you need to be patient in fact you must be if truly you want to succeed. Do you know that patience is required while building a venture, as most startups start with limited resources, it takes time for business owners to be recognized, and it takes time for selling your service/products to your first customer. It takes time for the market to know about your offerings, it takes even greater time for the market to trust your venture in buying your offering.

At times you get provoked by colleagues, staffs or business partners just apply the content to wait if necessary not losing your temper, don’t get angry easily learn to overlook, with patience you can be able to climb the ladder of success in your business.

Perseverance: Perseverance is undoubtedly an important aspect of successful entrepreneurship. The saying that if; “at first you do not succeed, try, try again” means steady persistence in a course of action or purpose especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles or discouragement. If at first you try and don’t succeed, try again. As startup business, you are bound to make mistakes. Even if you consider yourself to be a complete perfectionist in everything you do.

It’s nearly impossible to go about nurturing your company without facing some obstacles along the way. All entrepreneurs, including the most successful businesspeople, experience failure. Never accept failure but regard it as lesson to learn from your previous mistake. Ohio inventor, Thomas Edison once famously; “I Haven’t failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. Whenever you fall you rise again that is perseverance.

Moreover, perseverance is often mistaken as synonymous with patience there is a little difference between them and they are a bit confusing; patience is the ability to withstand something difficult or irritating without a loss of composure as described earlier. The opposite of patience is frustration, irritation. Perseverance is the determination to stick to something and stay on course in spite of obstacles. The opposite might be apathy. The most essential component of an entrepreneur is tolerance, acceptance of mistake, and failure.

Finally prayer and sheer will are your companions to the end of the race. Remember, make Allah/God your constant energy source. Whatever business or profession you decide to do, just know you need; to work smart, work hard, be authentic, and be diligent, be ambitious, ensure there is a system/structure in place and always treat people with respect! (Whoever they are). Be strong as you embark on this new chapter in your life.

I Don’t know From Where to Start.

I was in a conversation with two of my friends whom we served together. One of them asked me; “Maryam please where did you start from? At first I said no where. She then asked again “How? Because I want to start something but I don’t even know from where to start. Honestly, I got puzzled and confused about the question but at the same time I was thrilled, because the question gave me a great pleasure to attempt it. To be sincere I don’t know from where I started.

Let’s be frank, you can start anything small not huge, you just need to acquire the skills and have the idea. Many people have this perception of; the financial market doesn’t care about how bright your ideas are if you are unable to meet their requirements that means you have no advance loan/capital to start and as such is all, as regards to your business dream. But, to me; you use the skills and resources you have to start small, save the little you earn and invest with what you saved. It happens gradually not overnight though, finance and funding is a major aspect of starting or setting up a business.

The right business for you depends on your circumstances, location, skills and passion. Just sit down look around you reflect and you will see a lucrative business you can start with little capital. I have these tips for you that will prepare you to embark on the journey of entrepreneurship:

  • Think outside the box; think big.
  • Be innovative and creative
  • Search for ideas; these ideas can be problems within your area.
  • Turn the idea into opportunities (a chance for advancement, progress and profit making). They can be solutions to the problem identified.
  • Pursue a creative career; Have the knowledge & skills of what you intend to do.
  • Design a plan (a set of intended actions, usually mutually related, through which one expects to achieve a goal.
  • Set a clear goal, put a plan in place and stick to it.
  • Have passion and interest in what you will do.
  • Take the risks for profit making and execute plan.
  • Build a team you can trust.

On a final note, we all have potentials and we all are blessed with gifts. You can make a good living and add value to the society by engaging in one thing or the other. All you need to do is to focus, be good at what you do. Its important that in your own life you sit in the driver’s seat be responsible for your own success or failure. Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other thing.

I hope the little tips I gave will serve as a guideline or a map with visual representation of the territory of entrepreneurship that you are about to enter. Don’t be afraid you can do it there will be this horrible feeling that will be build in your stomach as a result of words of doubt which often gets loud that we fail to react the road might seems to be turbulent and rough. Just Ignore and start you will get there.

Menstruation In Islam; Confusions And Clarification During Ibadah.

In the name of Allah the most beneficent the most merciful.

I don’t have to give rulings on menstruation, because we are all clear about the rulings that you don’t have to pray, fast, Tawaf and so on. So I’ll tell us ways a woman can know when her menstruation ends because it’s a bit confusing more especially during the month of Ramadan fasting. Hadith below indicates that Menstruation is a part of every daughter of Adam on earth and it is not a thing to be disliked but accepted as it is.

Continue reading “Menstruation In Islam; Confusions And Clarification During Ibadah.”

Ramadan Fasting is not an act of Agony or Self-torture

Ramadan Fasting is not an act of agony or self-torture.
Ramadan Fasting is not an act of agony or self-torture.

In a Hadith narrated by Abu Huraira from Prophet Muhammad PBUH who said:” Whenever the month of Ramadan commence the doors to paradise are opened and those (doors) to Hell-fire are locked up and all devils (Shaidan) are tied up with the rope (so that they may not tempt the Muslims.”

In another related Hadith; the messenger of Allah PBUH said: “Indeed, Allah merciful the great, forgives and thereby set immune against the torment of Hell-fire on the Day of Judgment to; about six hundred thousand of his servants in each night of the Ramadan. When it is the last night of Ramadan, he multiplies this by the exact number of days that have lapsed (600, 000× 29 or 600, 000 × 30)” Narrated by Baihaqi.

I am sure without any other clarification, the above Ahadiths gives a clear explanation of some of the bounties of the month of Ramadan. It is a disappointment to hear that Muslims are complaining of Fasting during the month of Ramadan and are eager to see the end of it.

Fasting is ordained by Allah the great, in the holy Qur’an Allah SWT said in suratul Baqara (Q2:183);
“O you who believe decreed upon you is fasting as it was decreed upon those who came before you so that you may become righteous”.

The above verse indicate that fasting is an obligation upon every Muslim, each and every one of us is expected to obey. Therefore, fasting in the month of Ramadan is an act of obedience to Allah SWT and his messenger PBUH. A Muslim have no option but to abide. In the Qur’an Allah SWT, says;

“It is not for a believer; Man or women when Allah and his messenger have decreed a matter that they should have an option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and his messenger has indeed strayed
in a plain error’’. (Qur’an 33:36).

Moreover, the wisdom behind fasting is not self-torture; because Allah SWT has set aside a stipulated time for the fasting and has not make it compulsory to the weak, ill, and the traveler (Allahu Akbar); Allah is great. In Qur’an 2: 183, Allah describes the conditions for fasting:

“Fasting for a limited number of days, whoever among you who is ill or embarking on a journey, he should then fast the same number of days (missed) that is equal number of days are to be made up. And upon those who are unable to fast (to fast with hardship):- A ransom (as substitute of feeding a poor each day). And whoever volunteers excess: – it is better for him, but to fast is best for you if only you know”. Suratul Baqara verse 184.

No one knows about what is good for men and women more than their creator; Allah. His laws are wise as it is the case with all his actions. Allah SWT made it clear that Ramadan fasting not hardship or anything related to it. In the same surah (Al-Baqara verse 185 Allah the beneficent says:

“The month of Ramadan (is that) in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for the people and clear proof s of guidance and criterion. So whoever sights the new moon of the month let him fast in it, and whoever is ill or on a journey, then an equal number of other days missed are to be made up. Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship and (wants) for you to complete the period (Ramadhan) and to glorify Allah for that to which he has guided you. And perhaps you will be grateful”.

How are about those married couples that are thinking that they have been deprived of quenching their sexual desire during the month of Ramadan. Still our good lord has not forbidden you to have sexual relations with your spouse. In Qur’an 2:187 Allah says:-

“It has been made been made permissible for you the night preceding fasting to go to your wives [for sexual relations]. They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so he accepted your repentance and forgave you. So now have relations with them and seek that which Allah decreed for you. And eat and drink until the white thread of dawn becomes distinct to you from black thread of night. Then complete the fast until sunset. And do not have relations with them as long as you are staying for worship in mosques. These are limits set by Allah so do not approach them. Thus Allah make clear his ordinances to the people that may be become righteous”.

Finally Ramadan Fasting is a strong indicator of Islamic brotherhood, unity, equity, perseverance, and endurance. In the Qur’an Allah SWT describes this religion unity.
“Indeed! This your religion (Brotherhood) is one religion and I am your lord, so worship me”. (Qur’an 21:92.).

We should adhere strictly to the above verse in action and letter to the logical conclusion. Ramadan is the month of unity that unites the whole Muslims all over the world in bid to do the same thing towards fulfilment of a certain divine commandment of Allah. It is our duty to exhibit this unity through this spiritual institution. Many of us today regard worship (ibadah) as hereditary which is passed on as inheritance intestate. I want us to understand that everything was documented and kept in place right before our descendants and on to us. The knowledge might be passing on from generation to generation but the rule and orders never change.

Letter To My Future Husband ( Father to my unborn kids)


The heart that has chosen you will never be away from you, right from the first day we met i knew and felt that you the mr. right for me. I have sensed a perfect life in our spousal relationship. I want you to know that what the lord has decreed be it and it will be. It was not our decision or option to be together, Allah made it for us.

Secondly a man’s dignity, self Worth, self respect, is not his account balance, its not in his swaggs nor the type of friends he mingled with. Moreover, your attitude of admiration or esteem is based on who you are not what you are. I promise to love you for who you are not what you have. So, in this case i want you to be focused on your dreams to be an achiever, don’t spend lavishly, invest and save more for our future make plans and budgets for our needs.

Dearie, i want you to be a God fearing person take your religion as your priority, make use of your youth stage very effective because one day you will surely be a daddy, when your past is not having a desirable or positive qualities, we have nothing to tell. In addition; Guard your chastity and lower your gaze from glancing at what does not rightly belongs to you. I assure you that you will make a good dad, always be playful and kind to our kids, portray a good example by loving and caring for their mum in their presence. Provide for them, always draw them closer, correct their mistakes and make them understand the ups and downs of life, don’t spoil them with luxuries of life but moderate.

Lastly, i know and believe that two different humans with dissimilar attitude, perception and upbringing will be united as one entity living under one roof of marriage, they both have to observe Patience and understand each other. I am not saying you should be Perfect but be at your best..

                       Your’s Future wife.